Thursday, April 30

Suzi Storm and Gold Jeans

Here I am again, at my workplace, stealing the wifi to get some writing in. I've had a couple bad days over the past week or so and I knew I had to come in and decompress. I'm not in a place where I really feel like going into details but I guess I've just been really lonely and down and writing usually helps me feel better.

Today I read a post by one of my favorite weight loss bloggers, Suzi Storm. I started reading her blog a couple years ago when she was losing 101 lbs with Weight Watchers. Since then I've followed her as she gained 100+ back, is now re-losing (shes lost over 90lbs!) and oh yeah, she has been sober for over a year now. She's a huge inspiration to me as I have lost, gained, relost, regained... you get the idea.

In her post titled "The Art Of (Re)Losing" she wrote this :

"These pounds lost now are smarter…they are wiser…they are not na├»ve…they are not there purely for vanity…they are not there for acceptance.  They have given me knowledge that I thought I knew before and have taught me things I didn’t even think I had to know.

(Re)losing is kind of a contradiction at the same time though. The biggest part of (re)losing is letting go of the past. Letting go of where you were and accepting where you are right now. It’s not focusing so much on where you want to be (which ideally is right back where you were) but where you are at that moment and how to make the next moment better."

This was something I needed to read and a way I have to start thinking of my reloss journey. I get caught up thinking about two things 1)Where I used to be and 2)How far I have to go. Lately some pictures have been popping up of when I weighed a lot less than I do now and I see now how good I looked and how happy I was. At that time I just wanted to keep losing and now I'd do anything to be that weight and maintain there. Getting to that point again is going to be a struggle and I find how far I have to go to be a bit overwhelming. When I started eating healthy again I was super casual about it and I've let myself become obsessive over it again and I need to not. 

Suzi is right. I need to let go of where I used to be and just focus on how I can be better right now and work towards being better in the future. Weight loss feels slow and like a waste of time sometimes when you don't see the scale move but deep down I know it's worth it and I have to keep working hard. The truth is that I look in the mirror and know I look different, I feel better and in the end the hard work does pay off.. I just need to be patient. 

Today I started week 4 of the Couch to 5k program. I keep thinking it's going to get easier but it doesn't - it just keeps getting more hellish. I've said it on here before and I'll say it again - I am so not a runner. When I say that and when I talk about how miserable running makes me everyone tells me to go to zumba or try a different machine. While that is certainly the best piece of advice there is for my problem, I can't help but stick to running. Running does wonderful things to my body and it makes me feel strong. I know that eventually I'll be in a place where going for a run is therapeutic and not a torture session but getting to that place is a pain in my ass... and thighs, back, shins and calves. 

As far as food goes, I eat pretty well. I generally stay away from junk food completely which is good stuff. Honestly though, it would be much more respectable if I was a super big junk food person but I'm not so much of a junk food eater as I am an over eater and a fast food eater and a pasta and pizza eater. While I certainly binge on my fair share of chips and cake, carby cheesy foods are my weakness. That being said, I'm generally staying away from those things too which is impressive considering I work at a pizza/spaghetti house. Good job, Bailey. 

In the run of the day I usually will have a breakfast of maybe fruit and granola or some banana pancakes (made with egg and banana and I actually prefer them to real pancakes) or some scrambled eggs with feta and tomato. Lunch and dinner could be a salad with chicken, quinoa salad, turkey burgers, stir fry, souvlaki, it really just depends. I try to eat lots of veggies and protein for the most part. I snack on low caloriepackaged treats, veggies, hummus, fruit, cheese, etc. I have cheats but sometimes I go a couple days without any which surprises me. 

I haven't lost anymore weight and my weight goes up and down a couple lbs through the week but Im trying not to stress over it. I think Im going to start tracking my food but I dont want to obsess over it or obsess over the scale - its something I have to constantly keep in check when Im losing weight.

I bought some goal jeans a couple week ago when I was shopping. It started out as "They only have these jeans in too small or too big for me, God Damnit" and became "these will be my goal jeans and I will have a way to track my progress without using the scale" They are a size 14 and I'm a 16/18 so it's something realistic to work towards. Funny note : for the past two weeks my cousin thought i was saying "Gold Pants" though which I find hilarious. Here is me in my "gold" pants : 

 

I love these jeans and I can't wait to wear them but I have 15-20lbs (maybe more) to go Id say before I can button them. My unrealistic goal is to fit into them when I go to see my best friend in Vancouver but that is in just under 7 weeks and it would take a miracle.. but I do believe in miracles! 

My question for you guys is this : how do you combat being obsessive over the scale, counting calories and/or points or even being obsessive over exercise? I can usually tell if Im being obsessive but I dont know how to stop myself. Any ideas? Thanks guys!

Big Love,
Bailey 

And to the person who left this comment : 



You made my fucking day. :) 


Monday, April 20

oh hey, blog.

Hello friends - its been a while, I know. A large reason I haven't been writing is the fact that I have no wifi. I don't open up my laptop and start typing very often anymore and Im not one to write using pen and paper so it just doesn't happen. I've had the urge, believe me..just haven't done it.  Honestly though, a huge reason I think I stopped writing was because I subconsciously put up a huge wall after receiving an insane negative comment on a blog I posted a couple of weeks before I stopped writing.

When I freely put my thoughts, opinions and feelings out there I have to accept that some people may not always like it or agree and will go as far as commenting negatively and letting me know just how much they don't like it. That's just how it goes. For the most part though, that hadn't ever happened yet and I've had this blog since high school. People are good to me - they comment and encourage me and blogging has been an awesome experience. When I received this particular comment I think it took me by surprise and made me pull back.

For a while I worried everyone or at least a portion of people felt the way this person felt and that I should no longer write about my life and experiences and opinions because it was just whiny and negative. The thing is though.. this is my blog and if I want to write about things that suck in my life, I will, and it's totally okay if no one reads it. If you don't like it, don't read it. Please, for the love of god, don't read it and complain about it if you dont like it! Just go away.

Writing is my therapy - writing about things that hurt or bother me is how I deal with them best. The reason I post and share is because I've found that people relate and understand to a lot of what I'm saying and sometimes its nice to not feel so alone when you're hurt and bothered by shit. It took me too long to realize I have to write anyway, even if people don't like it, but I get it now and I am going to try to write more often. :)

During my little hiatus not much has changed in my day to day life. I've been working a ton, my roommate sadly moved out, I don't drink very often anymore as I'm quite busy with work and I spend as much time with friends and family as I can. My love life is definitely the same but I am trying hard to not worry about boys and focus on being a version of me that I can really like and appreciate and I figure a dude might be able to like and appreciate me more when I can. I did hang out with a really lovely guy last week and it would be nice if that went somewhere as I felt a nice little click with us. It was really nice to just hang out with a guy who I could talk to and be comfortable around..and he ended up being a pretty good kisser too. But I'm going with the flow and if it doesn't happen, it doesn't and its all good.

Unfortunately this winter I found out that my dad has been diagnosed with Cancer. At first this was scary for me after seeing so many of my friends struggling with the heartbreak of having sick family this year. I knew it was coming - we were prepared that this was a possibility but you're never truly prepared to hear your dad tell you he has cancer. Fortunately, it's an early stage, low risk cancer and at this point the oncologist has decided to wait it out before taking action with treatments. We are all hopeful and positive and I trust things will be okay because I really don't know what else I'm suppose to do at this point.

Life has been a little funky for me lately. It is definitely not a bad life - I am blessed and I know that I'm just going through a bad stage. I just feel a little stuck and work has been draining me a bit, both physically and emotionally. I'm trying my best to pull myself out of it and I'm feeling positive that May will be a great month and June will be even better. May is a ton of exciting celebrations - birthdays and baby showers and the celebration of warm weather of course. Then in June 2 new babies will be coming into my life and I finally have a trip planned to visit my best friend in Vancouver. I am over the moon excited for this trip - I am counting down the days and I get giddy if I talk about it too much so I'll stop.

For now, I wake up every morning and try to go into my days with a good attitude. I'm eating healthy and have been back at the gym doing the Couch to 5k program and I'm feeling good. I've lost 12 lbs and that's pretty nice too. Going through ruts is easier when you're at least trying to feel your best to make life a little better and I really am trying. :)

So that's where I've been at in my head and what I've been doing. I feel a weight off my shoulders just having written this so that goes to show that I really do need to write more often. For now I'm off to make a grocery list, hit up the gym then fill my fridge with something other than ketchup and plum sauce.. classic.

Big Love,
Bailey J 

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